All we meant to do was gain a little extra family time in the mornings. What we didn't bargain on was how much this little decision would truly change our lives. I know that sounds drastic, but I don't know how else to explain just how improved out daily routine is now that we get up to eat together as a family each morning.
Originally we had decided on the change because David was feeling like he didn't get enough relaxing time with the girls. By the time he got home from work each day it was time to sit down for our family dinner. We'd eat around six and then the girls would immediately rush off to get ready for bed (which lets face it, is not always a fun part of the day with kids). By the time they had pjs on and teeth brushed it was time for reading and then bed by 8pm. Meanwhile I would be in the kitchen all that time cleaning the mess of supper. I'd be worn out from cooking he'd feel like he didn't really get to just visit with the girls.
So we made the decision to change our official family meal to the morning. I still wanted to feel like we had a nice sit down meal each day, so this is a serious breakfast...no bowl of cereal or yogurt/granola route each day. Besides, we really like variety. So I have been getting up each morning and preparing a breakfast. Our other hope had been that we'd consume the majority of our calories in the morning, jump starting our metabolism, and gradually taper off so we aren't going to bed with a stomach full of calories to digest. I am trying to lose weight but don't believe in dieting.
This is what has happened. In only two weeks time our entire daily routine is completely different, and not all of it was planned. Already I have noticed that I am not as hungry during the day. I didn't think i was a early breakfast person, but after only a couple of days adjustment I am now fully ready for that morning meal. I am not snacking as much either and have noticed that my portions have cut themselves in half; I am just not feeling the need to consume as much at each meal.
The biggest change has been the general atmosphere of the mornings. We just aren't rushed. In fact, this morning Olivia woke up an read for 30 minutes before getting ready for the day. I am not having to nag to get the kids ready and David isn't having to rush out the door, and often spends almost 45 minutes at the table drinking coffee and chatting with the kids. His mood seems more improved as well, not feeling like he is missing out on stuff while at work. This week it has been especially great, because he is working really late and isn't coming home until the kids are asleep. But because we are having breakfast together he is still able to feel like he spends part of his day with us.
It has also really allowed me to take a break from all the evening cooking. I always felt a pressure to put a great meal on the table for him. Now, since I do the majority of cooking in the morning I feel like I can be more relaxed with our suppers. Last night we had turkey-swiss sandwiches with caesar salads. We still eat together when possible, but without all the pressure. It also means if he wants to go to the gym after work he can because we aren't on as strict of a dinner schedule. And, he gets to spend more evening time just hanging out with the girls. Or we can stay outside longer playing in the beautiful weather.
I just wanted to give you an update of how it's all going for us. Honestly, I don't know if we will ever go back to the other way. All in all I have noticed I am less grumpy in the evenings and less consumed with what we are eating. We all seem much happier with the new routine. I still love making a terrific dinner, but now we do that kind of cooking as a family on the weekends.
xo,
Rachel
